100 Results in Socialising

Being alone versus feeling lonely

There is so much to do around it, feeling lonely and not being alone, or being alone and not feeling lonely. So what is this all about? Being alone Being alone for someone with Asperger’s syndrome is vital. Our social energy batteries run dry a lot quicker, than those of neurotypical people, and so we… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to read this article, along w…

Abandonment feelings in ASD

Week to week, one of the most frequent feelings I experience is: abandonment. Intellectually, this feeling is always an irrational one, but I don’t think feelings have to be rational in order to ‘count.’ My feelings are still very real. There is not one specific moment in my life I can pinpoint which would be the… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to co…

How to manage social energy levels

Finding out what makes you lose social energy and what makes you gain it is the first step to sensible social energy management. Socialising is the obvious thing that causes introverts to lose social energy and extroverts to gain social energy, but there are also other factors to consider. I have listed examples in the table below:

NT/ASD friendships

Most individuals with ASD are just like everybody else, in the sense that, we just want to be liked. Some people are more extroverted, some are more introverted, but this statement applies to both personality types. Most human beings (with ASD or without ASD) have an innate desire to connect with others, i.e. we want… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to read th…

Social Energy Theory

This idea suggests that every person has ‘social energy’. Social energy is the energy required for socialising. Social energy is contained within a tank. Watch our amazing animated film to see what this all looks like in action:

Object permanence

I was at an autism conference last week and, whilst listening to Dr. Wenn Lawson, I realised there was a proper name for a challenge I’ve had since I was a young child. The thing I am referring to is officially called ‘object permanence.’ This is the understanding that objects continue to exist even when… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to r…

Minimising the glass jar during socialising

Glass Jar Theory states that, people with ASD live inside glass jars. They can see everyone around them but when they try to ‘touch’ any of them, there is a glass wall preventing this from happening. We have decided that it is the triad of impairments that cause the formation of the glass jar around… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to read this article, along wit…

Labels

I am 26 years old and even with all the life experience I’ve had (school, university, being employed, being an employer, etc.), I still have trouble understanding the relationships between people. It seems a lot easier for neurotypical people to draw lines between strangers, acquaintances, friends and colleagues, but, for me, the lines are very blurred or squiggly.With… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available o…

The three layers of relating to somebody else

Today I have been thinking about how we show that we care about another person. Looking at relationships in the simplest way, I believe there are three layers involved when we relate to another person. They are shown in the image below…. Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to read this article, along with receiving access to our exclusive animations, podcasts an…

Making up after an argument – how the NT can help

Arguments can happen inside any loving relationship. A NT in a relationship with a person with ASD will experience different sorts of arguments than if he were with another NT. The way in which the make up happens will also be different to a NT/NT relationship. The aim of this blog article is to provide… Join The Curly Hair Project Community Today This article and our podcasts are available only to members of our community. If you would like to continue to read this article, alon…