Like a lot of people on the autism spectrum, I have rigid routines and ways of doing things. This inflexibility is actually a method of coping and being able to do things well, rather than me being difficult. If I don’t have such rigid plans and sequences, then I feel completely bewildered and nothing gets done at all.
But what happens when your workload becomes so high that you feel you could benefit from the help of others? Or when you just feel a bit overloaded generally and could do with some practical support from others? How do you fit these people into your rigid routines?
This is a massive problem that I face. As soon as other people get involved in my life, things start to go wrong – deadlines get missed, schedules get disrupted, inaccuracies occur, or people just do the wrong thing despite having good intentions. Often it means I end up having to do more work. It’s not their fault though. It’s just that, because of my Asperger’s Syndrome, my life has to be extremely rigid and accurate. If it’s not rigid and accurate then my anxiety becomes extremely high and I find it difficult to function.