‘Roxanne (29, ASD) has a group training session that would help her to find a job. During the training, her fellow trainees start to talk amongst themselves. The chatter becomes very loud and affects Roxanne greatly. She decides to leave the room for a while. She finds a quiet place to relax for a little bit, and returns to the room. When she enters again, her fellow trainees stare at her and start talking silently amongst themselves. She quickly sits down and avoids all eye contact. During the break she overhears two people say that they think Roxanne is weird, and that it is very impolite for Roxanne to just get up and leave like that. Roxanne feels very upset and shuts down.’
When taking part in situations for an extended length of time – such as this – it is very hard to camouflage autism. It can be seen in small mannerisms, quirks, the way someone uses body language… etc.
It’s not always easy to let people know you are autistic and that you have special needs. It has to be given thought on whether someone wants to let others know about this and what the possible consequences can be.
Society has certain expectations of what ‘normal’ behavior is supposed to be like, and when ‘deviating’ behavior is acceptable.
Here I will adress two possible consequences upon telling or not telling you have autism.