As an adult on the spectrum, socialising may be just as tricky – if not more – as when you were a child. You may have learned various coping mechanisms, but with the added pressure and expectations to be a responsible, independent adult, socialising may become more difficult as you find yourself retreating and isolating.
Adult life brings with it lots of expectations. You are supposed to have graduated, have your own house, have a family, a good social life, etc. We see all these things advertised on a daily basis!
It might be very tricky for someone with autism to find their place in this sort of world, where there are so many expectations that we struggle to meet. What we very often see is adults on the spectrum feeling like they have ‘failed’ in adult life, leading to retreating, isolation and depression. One of the most challenging aspects is finding and keeping friendships. A good friend is important for anyone, and can provide comfort and companionship, reducing those feelings of isolation and hopelessness.
Here are 5 tips that I hope will help you improve your social life and find friends in adulthood: