I sometimes come across people with ASD (mostly teenagers and young people) who are seeking to meet others with ASD. I always wonder why this is. Responses from parents of teenagers – and teenagers themselves – usually remark that they are looking to find friendships. I personally have never gone looking for others with ASD with the hope of them becoming my friends and there are reasons for this, which I will explain in this article. I was diagnosed as an adult so never had the opportunity to ‘access’ other children on the spectrum in the hunt for friends so it is difficult for me to make a comment on whether or not I would have wanted to.
There is often an assumption that people with ASD will get on well with others with ASD. This assumption is false.
There are some things I would like to bring to your attention when meeting others with ASD with the primary goal of thinking that you will become friends. This article is not in any way intended to cause offence! It is really just a summary of my experiences of meeting others on the spectrum.