This blog article is about helping and encouraging your autistic loved one to fulfill their potential and being aware that some things you do may be unintentionally hindering. The first thing to understand is that social recognition is rarely the main motivator for us to be doing something. If it appears that way, it is most likely that we are looking for reassurance and acceptance. Most of us spent our childhood and adolescence desperately trying to “fit in”, craving to be accepted.
Our main motivation is usually, genuine, honest, enjoyment of the task. This means that, regardless of what anyone else says or thinks, we will want to do it anyway! You could say that the main motivation is for oneself and I’d argue that this is the best kind of motivation. Unfortunately, if we are not interested in something, our motivation will be low – but there are some things the loved one can do to to help with motivation.